So, we’ve heard recrimination, and earnest warnings, but I promised a debate so here is a voice calling out in the name of feminine empowerment….
This quote is the first thing I stumbled upon, attributed to Cady Heron.
“In the real world, Halloween is when kids dress up in costumes and beg for candy. In Girl World. Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.”
I assumed Ms. Heron must be a brilliant, outspoken young feminist, but it turns out she’s a fictional character played by Lindsay Lohan in the movie, “Mean Girls.”
On the upside, Tina Fey wrote that movie, and Tina Fey epitomizes the personality that psychologists and cultural anthropologists typically refer to as “da bomb.” There must be some sort of elemental halloween costume component to that movie, because it is referenced repeatedly in essays on sexy costumes.
“Women are constantly bombarded with people telling them how they should and shouldn’t dress, and this Halloween is no different. There’s the “don’t succumb to peer pressure and dress like a slut” mentality versus the “Halloween is the day to be scantily clad” notion. And frankly, it’s f*cking annoying.…”
This article comes from the pseudonymous writer, Kgazm, an editor at Elite and “an advocate for the equal opportunity orgasm. She is the persona of a woman who knows what she wants. Her writing specializes in eviscerating the double standard, one article at a time. ”
Right on, Kgazm! There’s nothing better than a woman who speaks her piece and has no patience for bullshit. And she’s not alone. I expected to find a vast array of essays decrying objectification, but that wasn’t the case. Virtually all of the most popular hits are about women exerting ownership of their own sexiness on this one day, when society allows them to dress sexy without judgement from other women.
Men, it seems, are still not supposed to look. That’s objectification. That’s right. A woman could theoretically dress herself up in the trampiest costume she could find, and a man would be sexist if he suggested it was inappropriate as well as sexist if he liked it too much. Halloween is particularly difficult for guys, at least in this regard. Of course, being a guy totally rocks the other 364 days a year–more pay, gratis membership in the Old Boys Club, strangers–with the exception of a few senile dowagers–don’t call us honey or sweetheart….
It’s all pretty much equitable, right? And besides, guys like me–good guys–we’ve learned not to gawk, having mastered the key component to progressive maleness, the ability to stealthily sneak a peak.