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The Great Sexy Halloween Costume Debate 3 of 4

So, we’ve heard recrimination, and earnest warnings, but I promised a debate so here is a voice calling out in the name of feminine empowerment….

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Sexy Lumberjack–popular and functional in the Pacific Northwest

This quote is the first thing I stumbled upon, attributed to Cady Heron.

“In the real world, Halloween is when kids dress up in costumes and beg for candy. In Girl World. Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.” 

I assumed Ms. Heron must be a brilliant, outspoken young feminist, but it turns out  she’s a fictional character played by Lindsay Lohan in the movie, “Mean Girls.”

Opps.

On the upside, Tina Fey wrote that movie, and Tina Fey epitomizes the personality that psychologists and cultural anthropologists typically refer to as “da bomb.” There must be some sort of elemental halloween costume component to that movie, because it is referenced repeatedly in essays on sexy costumes.

Halloween Slut-Shaming PSA: Dress However The Hell You Want

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Sexy Boba Fett. Requires a LOT of confidence.

“Women are constantly bombarded with people telling them how they should and shouldn’t dress, and this Halloween is no different. There’s the “don’t succumb to peer pressure and dress like a slut” mentality versus the “Halloween is the day to be scantily clad” notion. And frankly, it’s f*cking annoying.…”

This article comes from the pseudonymous writer, Kgazm, an editor at Elite and “an advocate for the equal opportunity orgasm. She is the persona of a woman who knows what she wants. Her writing specializes in eviscerating the double standard, one article at a time. ”

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At least there is no double standard. I’d be crucified by the other guys if I dressed sexy.

Right on, Kgazm!  There’s nothing better than a woman who speaks her piece and has no patience for bullshit.  And she’s not alone.  I expected to find a vast array of essays decrying objectification, but that wasn’t the case.  Virtually all of the most popular hits are about women exerting ownership of their own sexiness on this one day, when society allows them to dress sexy without judgement from other women.

Men, it seems, are still not supposed to look.  That’s objectification. That’s right.  A woman could theoretically dress herself up in the trampiest costume she could find, and a man would be sexist if he suggested it was inappropriate as well as sexist if he liked it too much. Halloween is particularly difficult for guys, at least in this regard.  Of course, being a guy totally rocks the other 364 days a year–more pay, gratis membership in the Old Boys Club, strangers–with the exception of a few senile dowagers–don’t call us honey or sweetheart….

It’s all pretty much equitable, right?  And besides, guys like me–good guys–we’ve learned not to gawk, having mastered the key component to progressive maleness, the ability to stealthily sneak a peak.

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The Great Sexy Halloween Costume Debate 1 of 4

My favorite singer/songwriter, Jill Sobule, has been charming us with this little ditty for several autumns now. It’s pretty much become a Halloween standard.

 

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Jill Sobule on Halloween Costumes

I can’t say that I agree with my favorite folk singer, Jill Sobule, on this one–I’m all in favor of folks (especially women)(especially women who aren’t my daughters) dressing up sexy. I’ve been trying for years to get my wife to rock something hot on halloween, but no dice–she’s got all this pesky dignity and nagging self-esteem.

Living in a university town, the “weekend” (now Wednesday night through Sunday) around Halloween is always an “oh brave new world” type of visual experience. Still…

The thing about “sexy halloween costumes” is that the concept can go horribly wrong in what seems like a blink of the eye.

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And in the other side of the  “careful what you wish for” department…click here at your own risk especially if you’re inclined towards feminism.  I know a couple of angry vegetarians who will ridicule me just for posting the link, but these are funny from the right perspective.

But for the sake of gender equity and fairness to oppositely oriented folks, as well as those who favor a relatively balanced mix of sex and violence….
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